“What do you wanna do when you grow up?”
This famous question has either been enlightening for a small percent of 20-something year olds who knew what they wanted since middle school, or fucking annoying for the majority of us.
From grade school to college, we have been encouraged by our teachers, friends, and family to explore ourselves and decide what we want to do/be when we grow up.
I remember in my senior year of high school (when “senioritis” was at it’s peak) my teacher asked me, “What do you wanna do when your older?”
I couldn’t really answer it, because I saw myself doing so many things.
(she also asked me this after I had just taken a pretty epic nap during class)
So, maybe it was the fact that I was still groggy that I couldn’t give her a solid answer. But, thinking about it now, I have an IDEA of my path but I still can’t pinpoint it.
One thing I see wrong with the advice given and questions asked in school, is that it doesn’t take in account how unique and creative EACH AND EVERYONE OF US is.
You know, like how we evolve as humans over time and really peel back the layers to find our purpose.
Given external pressures (that we may or may not be aware of), it’s very hard to go against advice that has been embedded in us at such an impressionable age.
And to be quite frank, I think it’s a load of shit.. humans evolve over time and different passions manifest themselves as we dig deeper into our self and try new things.
We’re moving into a new age where we don’t need to follow traditional advice to make a positive impact and create a life for ourselves.
This is what inspired me to create a hierarchy of questions that should REALLY be asked and answered honestly before getting into debt, and going into careers to please everyone else, but ourselves.
The Hierarchy of Questions
Least important – WHAT do you want to do/be when you grow up?
My thoughts – A mediocre question. Needs improvement. Implies that you will have to fit yourself into a predetermined job title, and chances are, you’re just settling and not living up to your potential.
Important – WHO do you want to be when you grow up?
My thoughts – An improvement from question #1, because now we’re getting to the core of the situation.
Asking yourself, WHO rather than WHAT, implies you’ve decided who you want to be in the future and that you will start being that person today, and eventually grow into that person permanently.
Gamechanger – WHAT do you want to be remembered for?
My thoughts – This is the MOST important question anyone could ever ask themselves. I wonder why the hell no one asked us this while growing up throughout high school and college.
(I’ll give my grade school teachers a break because I was probably too young to comprehend this kind of question at that time)
Asking yourself this question forces you to think critically, and you’ll probably be surprised by the answer you come up with too.
I really believe that this is the only question that matters in the grand scheme of things.
Trying new things (out of your comfort zone) is the only way to answer the 3rd and most important question.
The material shit gets old, but you know what doesn’t?
Being remembered for your character, doing something great and making an impact. Small or big.
Everything else is secondary!
People remember how you made them feel.
You know, a wise man once told me, “Do something today that provides fruit for the future”
He also told me to ask myself a series of very important questions, such as:
– What do you like to do?
– Who/What will you be impacting?
– Can you support the lifestyle you want, as a result?
– When you fall asleep at night, did you give that day your all? and did you make someone smile because of your cause/purpose?
“You never grow up … You’re always growing, but what are you growing towards in the end? That’s the essence of meaning”
And you really don’t need to know the specifics of exactly where you’re headed either. Just go in the direction of what you makes feel alive.
If you have a passion, find an internship and/or create your own job so you can see if that’s a field you may actually enjoy working in.
If you’re not even sure what you like to do, then experiment. Get out of your comfort zone. Internships/jobs are such a great way to help you figure things out.
Invest more money in books than you do on the material stuff. Books such as the ones listed below have made a tremendous impact on my mindset and life:
- The Education of Millionaires by Michael Ellsberg
- Courage by Osho
- The Way of The Superior Man by David Deida
- The Impact Equation by Chris Brogan and Julien Smith
- 10x Rule by Grant Cardone
These are all great options, and many more.
You won’t find your gift by sitting around thinking about it all day. Go out there and try new things.
I stopped letting fear get to me and I hope you do the same.
The world needs your gift 🙂
Be your best.